February 16, 2010

There is a difference..

Well I sit here at home again! Yesterday we were out of school for Presidents Day, today is a different story. We are out of school for SNOW! Yes you heard me, out of school again for snow. You would think I lived in CO or NY but no I live in a small town, Tennessee. We usually get snow maybe twice a year, this year is the most we've gotten that I remember. They are actually calling for rain/snow this weekend, I actually hope its rain. We have cabin fever today. Had it yesterday too. Deon stayed home yesterday because of icy roads. He went in this morning, so its just the kids and I.

The point of me blogging this morning, is I keep thinking of our Sunday school lesson, this past Sunday. We've been talking about God, Marriage and the Family for about a year. Very good lessons. This past lesson was regarding discipline. Deon spoke up about having two children and how different their punishment is from each other. Savannah is more emotion, you just look at her and she'll crumble. Mostly with Deon, she does not like it when he gets onto her. Dalton, well he's another story. (laughing) He is ALL BOY! He is the definition of BOY! (laughing) He is stubborn. He is a mixture of me and his dad.

Well Sunday morning Dalton was sitting on the other side of Deon. Apparently Dalton was dozing off during the service. Deon kept tapping him to wake him up, and he kept going back to sleep, or was drawing. He was not paying attention or at least acting like he was paying attention during the service. So Deon starting writing down TV, DS, Wii, Computer, Radio. Then marking them off every time Dalton didn't do what Deon was quietly trying to get him to do. Finally after the third thing getting scratched out Dalton figured out what was going on.

After church services, we went out to eat with some friends of ours from church. In the truck, Deon starts telling Dalton the things he has lost. Then explains to him he has to Earn them back. I looked over at them two, and said "Oh that's a great idea". After lunch and returning home, Dalton starts thinking of things to do. He was asked to feed the animals, and gladly did it with out whining (which is what he usually does when asked to do something), he then on his own starts straiting up shoes in the utility room, and front of the house too. (without being asked) He took out the trash, without being asked. Then turns around later on during the day and said "Mom, you want me to wash the dishes?" I about feel out into the floor. I know my mouth flew open. I said yes, but lets wait till after supper when we get back from church. He said ok, and went off to play.

I am surprised of how this new punishment whatever you want to call it is working. We've done this type of stuff before by taking things away, but usually for a day, or sometimes a week, depending on what he or she did. This taking away stuff and having them earn it back (which I've heard this before just never tried it) is working a lot better. He's behaving better, so he can get the things back, He got his TV back yesterday morning, but ended up loosing it again yesterday afternoon, and losing his DS.

This morning...he has earned his DS and TV back for not complaining and whining about being bored or asking me when he'll get that stuff back. Which is what he has done in the past. Savannah has been extra good these two days so she doesn't lose this stuff. This house seems to be running smoothly. I have not yelled in two days @ these kids. I know they are happy about that, and makes me happy too. Because you know the saying " If momma isn't happy No One is happy".

"Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to you heart." (Prov. 29:17)

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